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Lessons Learned From Breakups

Aug 25, 2016 10:18AM ● By Caitlyn Leary

The toughest part of a break up is when you realize how much you miss that person, and you feel so strongly about reaching out to them, but you know that it is pointless because that relationship doesn't exist anymore. What you're missing is probably a fabricated, better, and happier version of the relationship anyways. I have learned that the best strategy of getting over a relationship is keeping yourself busy, every minute of the day. Don't let yourself think about your partner because you ended for obvious reasons. You first need to realize that. You will become happy again, it takes time to heal and to realize that you do not need them to be happy.

1. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated.

2. Significant others will come in and out of your life, but your friends and family are always going to be there for you.

3. Wanting someone, or even wanting to be in a relationship with someone, is not the same as being ready to jump all in with that someone.

4. If you are the type of person who wants to be with their significant other 24/7, learn how to enjoy your time alone. You should split your time up evenly with all of your loved ones, friends, and yourself.

5. If you repeatedly make the same mistake in more than one relationship, figure out why and when you keep going wrong.

6. Never leave your partner in the dark. Say how you feel because nothing gets resolved with silence.

7. Missing someone does not mean that you should not have broken up. Everyone misses their ex after a break up, but you broke up for specific reasons and you need to learn how to live with the pain. You will get stronger from it.

8. Unfortunately, some relationships end, but that does not make them any less significant compared to the ones that last. Each relationship is a result of the person you are today.

(Caitlyn Leary is a resident of Tewksbury and a rising sophomore at Franklin Pierce University.)

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